How did the rock get there?

How did the rock get there?

How did the rock get there? In Death Valley, some of these “mystery rocks” have been known to weigh as much as 17 tons and travel over 300 yards per year.  How? Really not too mysterious at all: a consistent concentration of small elements (water, wind & sand) acting over time. They work together to gradually erode the surface of the rock and slowly move it across the desert floor.

How do strong marriages end?  How do successful people fail? How do great friendships go into free-fall? How do tight-knit families falter?

Erosion. Small things working in conjunction to break us down over time. Think about it: It’s usually not just one swing of the axe that fells a tree or that one crushing blow that KO’s the fighter, but rather a constant steady bombardment of hit after hit.  Sure the “quick knockdown” happens occasionally, but they are rare. They are the exceptions, not the rule.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. Probably because I’m getting older and probably because the longer I’m around, I see increased “casualties of war” in the relationships & marriages among my close friends and family members.  Divorce, animosity, bitterness and revenge have infiltrated relationships I thought were steadfast and immovable. Almost without exception, the victims ask…

How did I get here?

Some call it a “slow fade”: a series of small poor choices that eventually take you way off course.  If a pilot is only .2 degrees off, the longer he travels, he can end up thousands of miles away from his destination. In relationships, I call this “erosion”.  Erosion happens when a relationship tumbles through life with small points of tension. These “tension points” cause bits of friction over time and are caused by a number of things: patterns of sin, petty arguments, sarcasm, unresolved conflict, outbursts of destructive anger, and even differing views of parenting, financial management, Throw in other ingredients like: stress, lack of margin and hectic lives and you’ve got a “perfect storm”: a series of concentrated elements that erode your spirit and move you way off course.

You see, friction causes a callous over time.  Of course, a callous causes lack of sensitivity. You become insensitive to the needs of others. You trade Christ’s mission for your agenda. Your mind is controlled by the sinful nature. You become selfish, rude, short-tempered, brittle, cold, defensive, argumentative. You lack warmth, joy, laughter, compassion, integrity & praise. This is why the Bible warns against “hardening your heart” and encourages us to set our minds on the Spirit.

Romans 8:5-6 (NIV) Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace;

What are the small things that erode your spirit?

What are the little detours that take you off course?

What are the small decisions you can make to bring things back on track?

In life? In marriage? In faith? In finances?

It’s time to identify those tension points. Eliminate the areas that cause friction. It’s time to have a conversation, an intervention, a redirection to bring us “back to center”.

When we set the desires of our heart and mind on Christ, when we align our decisions with Jesus, we won’t ask, “How did I get here?” We will not fall victim to EROSION.

  1. israel higuera says:

    I love it……I used a similar explanation to my niece on her wedding day about keeping her marriage strong… does a couple go from wedding day bliss to hating each other 5 years later having to share weekend custody with a little one

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